My Enemy is My Friend: the Unwanted Life Coach

The Veridical Paradox

Is there a possibility that something unwanted is in fact needed? Is there a possibility that an enemy is a friend at the same time? Also, is there a possibility that a contradiction is a contradiction in itself in an endless loop? If any of those yield an answer of affirmation, then there is a possibility that a needed life coach may be an unwanted life coach in the first place.

Usually, trends in society nowadays favor an individual seeking for a deep and personal connection of co-participation with another peer referred as a life coach. In this aspect, that individual is in need of something he wants to be inculcated in his lifestyle. The individual sees the necessity of having someone guiding.

Even with the presence of a personal coach for the existence and sanity of a person, a human being's way of thinking is that he will utilize what is needed, when needed, and wherever the need could be applied with. And that which is not needed is discarded or shunned away.

People, being social creatures have always been bent in preferring to be with people they want to be with. It has been a stereotype that only friends are of value to each other and enemies are of the opposite value to be discarded. But the fact remains that in order to meet and value the meaning of friends, there should have been enemies to compare friends with. Now doesn't that contradict it? Here are enemies being of help; unknowingly interacting in order for individuals to treasure friendship connections with others. So if that is the case, aren't enemies the first friends of the affected individual?

Capability and Potential

It is quite hard to defend the statement “Which came first, the chicken or the egg?” Some might answer that with chicken due to its capability to lay eggs, while others would choose the egg for its potential in becoming a chicken someday, and since the chicken currently in check came from an egg.

Friends and enemies are no different from the chicken nor the egg in this chaotic world. Friends may have been enemies from the past reconciled, and enemies may be the friends that had taken a different path in life against your own.

So how exactly do enemies become a friend? We could put it into perspective that en enemy is already an identified negatively social person. An enemy is already expected to be a cause of unconstructive outcome when interacted.

An enemy has already made us cautious of what to avoid so that we do not experience the same unpleasant things. Unfortunately, no matter how hard we try to think that they are not capable of doing the same thing again, the fact that the person has already experienced doing it may carry it out again

By logic, our enemies have already been teaching us pointers in life to learn from those things we do not wish to experience again, and to overcome such pasts and be much stronger in life. They have indirectly been capable of inflicting a painful encounter and have potentially warned us of what may happen again.

Whether we like it or not, each of our enemies has been an unwanted life coach in our lives. They have been unforeseen friends amidst the disagreeable encounters. My enemy is my friend, and my friend may be my enemy.

What Are Your Keys to Success?

Keys to Success

As most people readily realize, everything you do in life is directly determined in success by how you approach it.  This means if you are willing to approach a situation with an open mind and a bit of self-confidence in yourself, you are going to be much more likely to succeed than someone who approaches with a grudge, attitude or just lack of self-confidence.  At the same time if you are trying to learn a new skill you are not going to set out with self-confidence so you need to learn some things to help you readily adjust to the things that you encounter.

These same principals apply to tennis as well.  What may seem overly complicated with a bit of patience and self-confidence can become readily manageable.  However, if you do not approach the game with some self-confidence you are likely to fail.  This is true of anything that you do, even if it is something other than tennis.  The final result of your performance is altered based upon your own personal approach and there are several things that you can do to improve your overall approach and ensure that you are having the best experience possible.

Approach the sport with an open mind and embrace it.  If you just half attempt the sport then you will increase the chances of getting hurt, decrease your chances of success and wish you had never picked up a tennis racquet.  If you approach with a positive mindset, you are going to put yourself in a much better position to be successful, regardless of how long you have been playing.  A player who approaches the court in a good mood and with a positive mindset is going to be much more likely to have a good game than someone who is in a bad mood.

Accept that mistakes will happen.  Even those players who are professionals make mistakes, which is part of life in general.  Accept this fact and take your mistakes as a chance to learn a lesson.  If you discover that you are making a mistake in your timing for swinging the racquet, take that as a chance to improve your timing.  If you take everything that you do wrong as an opportunity to improve, rather than as a failure you will be able to really improve your overall outlook.  To make you feel better, remember that even the best players are going to have days when they play horribly, make mistakes and just do not want to be on the court.

For those who have been playing a lot it is also important to avoid burn out.  This can strike any sport, hobby, job, career or activity.  If you do nothing but play tennis every waking moment that you are awake, you are going to be running straight into a burn out in no time at all.  Rather than do this to yourself ensure that you take a break at times to go shopping, hang out with friends and even just sit around on the couch acting lazy and watching television.  This will allow you to come back to the tennis court with a fresh mind and ready to play again.  The time that you spend away from the court in these circumstances can be just as valuable as the time you spend on the court.

You should also realize that each player has their own particular style.  What works best for your coach may not be what works best for you.  While you should take your coaches advice, you need to ensure that you are doing what is comfortable for you.  For example, your racquet, shoes and clothing need to be fitted for you and your needs, rather than what your coach can comfortably use.  If you take the time to do things your own style, you will be able to really develop your skills.  Never just try to completely copy another player, even if it is your coach.